Single radio producer Jana Hocking, 34, shares ‘drunk’ lockdown date she shared with man
Radio producer Jana Hocking (pictured)
An Australian radio producer who writes a monthly column about her relationship escapades spoke of isolated virtual encounters – and the “drunk” date that saw her potential partner walk away.
Triple M producer Jana Hocking, 34, is no stranger to dating apps – and advocates for their use in the modern age – but wasn’t used to knowing someone only online or through video chats.
She teamed up with a man who looked promising and after a phone call the couple decided to take it a step further with a video streaming date.
“We switched to Zoom. We did Houseparty dates. It went really well and we had 10 dates, ” she told James Weir and Carla Bignasca of the Not here to make friends Podcast.
When the lockdowns started to ease in NSW, they finally decided to meet in the real world and Jana visited the man’s apartment.
It didn’t take long for her to “think” that she liked him and how romantic their story would sound – having met in isolation – if they ended up getting married.
But unfortunately, a “drunk” encounter with him ended their romance.
“It was the night we drank a lot of gin and maybe I said some ugly truths that he didn’t like. Basically I turned into a white girl and I said, “I’m not here for sex! And if you’re here for sex, you can get lost!” He didn’t like it, she said.
It didn’t take long for her to ‘think’ that she loved him and wondered how romantic their story would sound – having met in isolation – if they ended up getting married (Jana left)
“So when he sent me a big message at 6:30 the next morning saying, ‘That’s why I never want to see you again’, I just wrote ‘just call. “
Although their story is ending, that hasn’t stopped Jana from receiving a number of direct Instagram messages from worried future boyfriends who are unsure why they are receiving mixed signals of a potential love interest.
“They read the articles I shared on insta, or watched the odd TV appearance I made to discuss these articles, and felt the need to ask their own questions,” Jane wrote on caprice in April.
Jana Hocking (photo during isolation)
So, in an effort to share her knowledge, Miss Hocking poured herself a glass of wine on April 14 and opened her direct message inbox to the public, asking “what do you guys want?” know about women? ”
She had between 80 and 100 messages from confused men looking for answers.
Do women watch porn?
It was an easy answer for Miss Hocking, and she simply replied, “Yeah, yeah, they do.” Even the quietest.
She attached a graphic that explained which categories of pornographic women engage the most to provide more information.
Lesbian videos, “romantic” options and “threesomes” were the top picks across the board.
Should we think big on the first date or keep it more low-key?
Miss Hocking argued that the whimsical first-round gestures weren’t the best idea, given that you could practice “in the first five minutes you got trapped”.
Instead, she recommended taking your date to a restaurant or bar you like so she can get a taste of what you like, which gives a glimpse of your personality.
Once the feelings are reciprocated between the two of you, you can plan something more romantic.
She had 80-100 messages from confused men looking for answers
Why so many cancellations before the first meeting or without notice?
“Honestly because they’re not that invested,” Miss Hocking told the annoyed suitor.
“If you’re really excited for a date, you would never cancel. You might have a million wines in advance to calm your nerves, but you’re on your way.
She said this sort of behavior should ultimately be seen as a blessing because the date would clearly have been a waste of time.
“If you’re really excited for a date, you would never cancel. You can have a million wines in advance to calm the nerves, but you go to the date, ”she said.
Would you be put off by the advances of an older man? Or is age just a number?
Miss Hocking said she was not personally offended by the idea of dating an older man, although she had already found herself with someone 20 years older than her and it was a “snoring party”.
She responded to the question by saying that she doesn’t understand why older men set their Tinder preferences to only match women in their 20s and 30s when women in their own demographic would be just as interesting. .
So while age may be just a number, it is also important to go out “within reason” in order to have things in common.
Why is the girl I’m starting to know going from hot to cold?
It could mean that she’s not 100% convinced you’re the right one, Miss Hocking said.
She might appreciate the attention she gets, but also wants to keep her options open.
Girls who behave in this way can also ‘play games’, which is a sign of insecurity. They might not want to commit for fear of ultimately being rejected.
Women who don’t respond aren’t usually interested, she says
Would you rather be a ghost or should he just say he doesn’t like you?
Miss Hocking strongly disagreed that ghosting was always the answer to ending a courtship.
“Always tell a girl. If you don’t it looks like you have no balls and imagine if your friends find out that you have ghosted someone? It’s just embarrassing, ”she said.
‘Be better. We’re fine and we can handle it.
Why do women correspond with you on dating apps and not correspond when you send a message?
Miss Hocking believes most women would only fit on a date if a man’s opening line was cheesy or fishy in nature.
If it was just a simple question, you are more likely to get an answer.
However, if it looks like you are copying and pasting a response to all of your connections, it will happen fairly quickly and should be avoided.